HPD vs. BPD by user @ Psych Forums

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"Talking HPD women and BPD women...IMO
Many HPDs have similar overlaps with BPD's:
-HPDs are also looking for a hero and savior (often casting you using in white knight or prince imagery)
-HPDs can also act like they are vulnerable, and often seem much younger than they are.
-HPDs can also turn into haters, splitting you, in which you go from white knight and savior to a betraying dark pariah.
-Many HPD's also have periodic windows of both dissociation and empathy, although as a general rule BPD's dissociate more intensely than HPDs and maybe because BPD's are afraid of abandonment, they seem more empathetic than HPD's.

Possible differences:
-HPD's are often very attractive; therefore they exude more social power and confidence than BPD's.
-A significant percentage of HPDs experience sexual satisfaction problems, and despite their seductive behavior they have little interest in sex; BPDs more readily become addicted to sex (or drugs, alcohol, etc,), perhaps as a way to ameliorate the BPD aversive tension they live with.
-BPD's are more paranoid when it comes to others; HPDs gullibly, even carelessly approach others (incl. AsPDs or other exploitative people ) in search of supply: attention and validation.
-From her side, the HPD relationship has a lighter, more carefree feel; you don't feel so that one-on-one intensity as in a BPD relationship.
-HPD is more organized, to the extent that besides a main boyfriend, many run a fan club with other guys that they are flirting with..."emotional cheating"... or in some limited cases, also having intimate affairs with. The main b/f and the members of the fan club are usually kept seperate by the HPD, and thus there is often a secretive air about all these goings on.
-In some HPD's the splitting also causes them to run two types of male relationships, either one right after the other, or in some cases at the same time, with these male types:
(a) older guys who are like father figures to the HPD
(b) younger 'bad boys,' who are often NPD or AsPD. or who have at least those some of those traits.



Obviously no two BPDs or HPDs will exactly fit this pattern, but you get the idea.

I don't know as much about BPDs, but I get the impression that maybe because they are so afraid of abandonment and under so much more stress/depression, etc., that they more readily go into therapy: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, seemingly much more often than HPDs go into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. In general anti-depressants also have more of a beneficial effect with BPD. There seems to be a lot of good data that BPD's are the most successful recovering Cluster B PD. There is even a Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Month (April? May?).

Maybe because many HPDs are attractive, more organized, occupationally successful and in generally more accepted in the Non world in comparison with BPDs (sometimes even admired), HPD's seem to often perceive a lesser need to go into therapy, until a break-up occurs. Then you can see windows of empathy and more openness.

In either case a successful relationship with either a BPD or HPD is a longer shot - especially with an HPD - IMO self-awareness of her (and yourself) being the bare-minimum starting point, recovery even better.  :D"

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