COMMUNICATION: How to stop circular arguments @ BPD Family

" You don't wait to win or lose. It's not a competition.
~ You don't worry about how they will respond. This is about protecting yourself - not them.
~ You don't hope that it will end soon. You are not a helpless victim.
~ You don't fear their anger. You have a right to protect yourself from harm.

Write this on something and read it 10 times a day till you firmly get it.
* Don't argue
* Don't defend
* Don't justify
* Don't explain
* Don't counter attack
* Take care of yourself and take a time out.


Do you feel strong enough to stop the argument?"

"J.A.D.E. =
don't need to:

Justify
Argue
Defend
Explain"

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